Girls, Guns & How To Solve the Problem of Dangerous Guys


On Thursday 26 April this story about an alleged shooting that took place on the Rhodes University (RU) campus was reported. Two lives were lost in the deadly incident, including that of a 21 year old female RU student. 

Since the story broke many have expressed their views on Facebook and Twitter, most expressing shock and disbelief. I’ve also come across photos of the student and although I don’t know her personally, I recognise her face and I know many reading this do too (RU is a small enough university).

This incident highlights so many issues that have been raised recently. Particularly the issue of violence against women as well as the prevalence of gun violence in South Africa. All of these are conversations that must be had! In the midst of all the debate and commentary, I’ve been trying to figure out what the right response is. Have you been trying to make sense of it too?

Right now, my response is grief.

Because she was a daughter, a sister and a friend to someone
Because she had her whole future ahead of her
Because she is more than a criminal investigation or a trending topic.

Someone out there feels her absence in a non-intellectual, non-political way. And I just want to take a moment to honour that and this woman who is gone too soon.


Photo taken in Grahamstown, South Africa



TCT :: #TheThirst – finding the ‘no’ in pornography [a few resources to help you along the way]


TCT :: #TheThirst - finding the 'no' in pornography [a few resources to help you along the way]

I was going to do a whole post on how to get out of a porn addiction/ habit but I found some people who explain it better. For an entire website dedicated to this and to get started on a recovery programme, click on my photo. For more resources, look below.

Highly recommended:

Mark Driscoll, The Porn Path (text document, mp3 download, video content and related resources):

Anne Marie Miller Sexual Abuse and Pornography(her story) :

Anne Marie Miller, Fighting and Addiction to Pornography (focus on women):

Overcoming the Porn Trap:

Articles that will make you think:

“Truths” that porn teaches about women :

Russell Moore’s talk on tempation, sexual immorality and porn:

When children view pornography:

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