“SOS please someone help me, it’s not healthy for me to feel this way.” Rihanna, SOS
It is Trench Coat Thursday! Here is a list of 8 things that a woman will find hot in a man. Or, better put, things women ought to find hot in a guy. Every one of these is taken from Song of Songs (SoS), the most romantic book in the Bible ever written. Coming up with this list was fun, let me know if you agree!
1. He smells good.
“The fragrance of your perfume is intoxicating; your name is like perfume poured out.” SoS 1:3
Like the scent he is wearing, a man’s reputation precedes him, and like a cheap cologne, a bad reputation is not something that escapes a woman’s notice. Proverbs 22:1 says “A good name is to be chosen over great wealth.” Long before she knew him well, one of the things that attracted my friend to her boyfriend was that everyone spoke well of him – his kindness, love for people and generosity. Your reputation is evidence of your character and there are few things more attractive than a man who is known by everyone for the right reasons!
2. He leads.
“My beloved is fair and ruddy, the chief among ten thousand.” SoS 5:10
Men who distinguish themselves from other men are super attractive! But what if the tall, dark and handsome guy isn’t really the kind of above averageness that women long for? The truth is, a super attractive man is a man who leads. Not the domineering know-it-all who has an opinion on everything, but a man who distinguishes himself among his peers and does not just follow the crowd. In a society of passive and irresponsible men, he takes the initiative proactively and handles his business.
3. He knows stuff.
“His head is of the purest gold…” SoS 10:11
I have a friend who once described herself as a sapiosexual. That bizarre term refers to someone who is physically attracted to people they find intelligent. Guys who have something other than Kim Kadarshian going on in their head are like gold. Men whose thoughts are pure and full of wisdom are hard to find and really attractive. Like Proverbs says, wisdom is supreme.
4. He has beautiful eyes.
“His eyes are like doves besides streams of water, washed in milk and set like jewels.” SoS 5:12
Season 20 of America’s Next Top Model featured a guy named Don whose one stand out characteristic was his beautiful eyes – those eyes! His eyes may catch a woman’s attention for a moment but the kind of eyes that will hold her gaze forever are those that look at her purely and tenderly. Eyes that see her as more than an object of his desire. Eyes that reflect emotion, passion and compassion.
5. His mouth is gorgeous.
“His lips are like lilies, dripping with flowing myrrh.” SoS 5:13
In my first year of university, one of my friends had an intense crush on a guy whose lips she went on and on about. He also had a beautiful voice – an irresistible combination for her. But what about what passes through those lips? Proverbs 12:18 talks about how “the tongue of the wise brings healing.” Men who are careless or cruel with their words are turn offs but a man who speaks encouragement and healing has serious game. This is not just about being charming, it’s about using your words to build and not to tear down.
6. He’s strong.
“His arms are rods of gold… his body is an ivory panel covered with sapphires.” SoS 5:13
Maybe it is all the knight in shining armour fairy tales we’ve been fed as children but there is something really attractive about a strong looking man whose arms look like they could carry you across that threshold! Ultimately though, the kind of irresistible strength is not the kind that Samson had but the kind that Jesus demonstrates. A strength that can bear burdens not his own and carry her through the difficult times in her life. The kind of strength that is not intimidated by hers.
7. He’s taller than me.
“His legs are alabaster pillars set on pedestals of pure gold.” SoS 5:15
When we were in high school the tall boys were always the hot boys, regardless of their facial appearance. And that’s because most boys were late bloomers and all of us wanted the tall ones who were few and far between. A man who stands tall is attractive. But a man who takes a stand for what is right is irresistible. Courage and conviction is what makes a man cut above the rest.
8. He has presence.
“His presence is like Lebanon, as majestic as cedars.” SoS 5:15
Some people can walk into a room and immediately own that room. They are sure of themselves, they have authority. Yes, women love that! But the source of one’s confidence is key. Proverbs 14:20 says “in the fear of the Lord one has strong confidence” and a man whose presence and confidence comes from knowing His presence is hard to resist.
Which explains why people fall for worship leaders.
Often, we get really caught up in the physical characteristics of a person and we forget that people are like candy. The outside may look really good (and of course we want it to) but what really counts is what’s inside!
I’d love to hear what makes a woman hot from a man’s perspective, any takers?
What are your thoughts? Do you agree?
Thanks for reading.